Sometime shortly before March 12, I was doing adoption agency research. After hours of searching, I couldn’t find any information about the agency that had been recommended to us. But then, I found “her”. Let’s call her Luella. Lu had posted a small blurb asking for reviews of the agency on an adoption forum. I immediately messaged her hoping to steal her research and we immediately began an email courtship. We both dove right in to the process to bring home babies and have been within days of each other the whole process, up until court at least.
We have many similarities: we treat adoption as a business to cope with the uncertainties, we both get similarly frustrated at the lack of communication in the process, she works in the industry that comprises my old client base in public accounting. We both love to sew and enjoy blog reading.
But as much as we first clicked, I have come to realize that we have so many differences. This will be her first child. She prefers to sit back and evaluate where as I dive in and stick my foot in my mouth. She actually finishes the craft projects she starts. I’m pretty open about the process whereas she prefers to hold on to the details.
We took our first trips in back to back weeks and had dreamed and hoped of perhaps meeting up on our court trips in the capital. Then, we got our court date and I was heartbroken week after week when issues kept coming up for them and no date was in sight. He went back on the 3rd trip and still no date for Lu. We got delayed by visa issues and still no date for Lu.
All the while, he and I were making our last trip preparations. We’ve known the schedule for several weeks now, but for some reason, I didn’t make reservations for accommodations in the capital. We knew we wanted to stay in an apartment because the thought of the extra space and kitchen was appealing since we’ll have Sweet Girl with us. I kind of pittered about on the apartment websites and made notes of ones I liked and their prices but never committed. I finally received a recommendation from our agency on which apartment website to use. I went and searched it for our needed days and location and only 2 apartments got returned. One was a studio which was the same size as a hotel room, but with a kitchen. There was nowhere for sweet girl to sleep though except in bed with us and we aren’t sure if she’ll need her space. The other was a large, “grand” two-bedroom apartment. It was more expensive and more space than we needed. We couldn’t decide and nothing was perfect so a couple more days went by.
Then, I got the email – Lu got her court date! And, against all odds, they would be in the capital almost the exact same dates we were. My thoughts immediately turned to that two bedroom apartment. They wouldn’t have their child yet, so there was plenty of space for 5 people. But, I’ve never actually met her in person. Sure we’ve exchanged almost 500 emails this year, but would we get along in person? Would it be too much to handle Sweet Girl and this new friendship? Would this be a disaster? I emailed her and asked thinking if she hemmed and hawed that maybe she had the same concerns we did and I’d just ditch the idea. But she said she’d love to! The apartment was booked that day.
So, regardless of the adventure we’re getting ourselves into, I’m very excited that I get to share this journey with my new friend Lu and her husband – not just through emails and on the phone, but in person. I feel a complete peace about it and I’m most excited to have other people to eat with and sightsee with because he and I are not so good at taking chances in foreign countries. And if it gets to be too much, then we’ve got two bedrooms 🙂
It’s just proof to me that God is in the details. Here’s to hoping that regardless of the space between them our eastern European kids can grow up together!___Also, our sweet friend Paige took some “maternity” pictures for us. It was a stressful day and none of the kids wanted to cooperate, but I think we got some good ones 🙂 I hope it shows sweet girl just how much we’ve prepared for her and want her in our family.